Hey..
[Adapted from a mail forwarded to me a few years back]
This might mean something for those in their twenty-something's... This puts it all into words perfectly - Quarter life crisis - what a neat way to describe this..
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may or may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.
You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that a great percentage of all twenty-somethings reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
And so my friends, I feel comfortable that Iam not alone in this crisis.
Chao..
[Adapted from a mail forwarded to me a few years back]
This might mean something for those in their twenty-something's... This puts it all into words perfectly - Quarter life crisis - what a neat way to describe this..
It is when you stop going along with the crowd and start realizing that there are a lot of things about yourself that you didn't know and may or may not like. You start feeling insecure and wonder where you will be in a year or two, but then get scared because you barely know where you are now.
You start realizing that people are selfish and that, maybe, those friends that you thought you were so close to aren't exactly the greatest people you have ever met and the people you have lost touch with are some of the most important ones. What you do not realize is that they are realizing that too and are not really cold or catty or mean or insincere, but that they are as confused as you.
You look at your job. It is not even close to what you thought you would be doing or maybe you are looking for one and realizing that you are going to have to start at the bottom and are scared.
You miss the comforts of college, of groups, of socializing with the same people on a constant basis. But then you realize that maybe they weren't so great after all.
You are beginning to understand yourself and what you want and do not want.
Your opinions have gotten stronger. You see what others are doing and find yourself judging a bit more than usual because suddenly you realize that you have certain boundaries in your life and add things to your list of what is acceptable and what is not.
You are insecure and then secure. You laugh and cry with the greatest force of your life. You feel alone and scared and confused. Suddenly change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward.
You get your heart broken and wonder how someone you loved could do such damage to you or you lay in bed and wonder why you can't meet anyone decent enough to get to know better. You love someone but maybe love someone else too and cannot figure out why you are doing this because you are not a bad person.
You go through the same emotions and questions over and over and talk with your friends about the same topics because you cannot seem to make a decision.
You worry about loans and money and the future and making a life for yourself and while winning the race would be great, right now you'd just like to be a contender!
What you may not realize is that a great percentage of all twenty-somethings reading this relates to it. We are in our best of times and our worst of times, trying as hard as we can to figure this whole thing out.
And so my friends, I feel comfortable that Iam not alone in this crisis.
Chao..
3 comments:
So true...the reason is coz 20 somethins is when, you dont have any other worries.
10-20, you have the responsibility of educating yourself, much against your wishes, but to your parents'
30+ making/raising kids
40+ raising teens ! - god Hairy time it must be.
50+ see the settling of kids & pre-retierment blues
60+ post retirement blues
<10 is when you are all by yourself, your innocence,your true playful self, carefree.
Hence 20-30 is when you manufacture worries, since we are trained to think man can't live without worries !....how ironical.
What quarter life crisis? Never heard of or felt any of these ;)
And Arvind ... your comment reminds me of thalaivar's song Raa Raa Raa Ramaiya in Baasha.
It goes like,
Mudhalaam ettil aadadhu vilayaatalla
Nee rendaam ettil kallaadhadhu kalviyum alla
moondraam ettil seiyaadhadhu thirumanam alla
naalaam ettil peraadhadhu pillayum alla
Aindhaam ettil serkaadhadhu selvamum alla
Nee aaraam ettil sutradhadhu ulagamum alla
Elaam ettil kaanadhu oyvum all
Nee ettaam ettukku mela irundhaa nimmadhi alla
So, lagging behind on thalaivar's advise :))
I am just back from India. I purchased all the five volumes from New Book Lands, 52C, North Usman Road, T Nagar. This bookshop is in a basement of a building next to New GRT Building.
Great shop. You can pick up any Tamil Book. I purchased Thiruvarangan Ula and Ponniyin selvan.
The publishers for Thiruvarangan Ula are
Lakshmisri Pathippagam
848, 91st street,
13th Sector, K K Nagar, Chennai 600 078
Thanks
Vijay
Vancouver, Canada
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